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Of course. But what OP refers to is that kids are born with their own personality which already emerges from a very young age in the first year. I've seen it

by toshk 5y ago

Of course. But what OP refers to is that kids are born with their own personality which already emerges from a very young age in the first year. I've seen it with my kids, and also other young kids in my close environment. For instance, some are just naturally extraverted, or wild, while others are careful by nature. Some of it changes when they get older, but a lot stays the same. So yeah environment matters, but most parents I talk to agree with me kids come with their own character.

ellinokon 5y ago
Can confirm. My son was definitely born with most of his behavioural patterns already formed. It appears to me that we as parents can only guide what is already there, and not completely reshape our children into whatever suits us. I expect parents expectations of how much they can shape their children has caused more broken adults than anything else.
- b112 5y ago
  Yes, we try to help kids fit into society a bit. The extrovert we teach control and restraint, the introvert to be ongoing and more expressive.
  - toshk 5y ago
    Yes exactly. Some mainly need borders, others need to show how to go beyond.
TacticalCoder 5y ago
> ... but most parents I talk to agree with me kids come with their own character. Especially parents of identical twins.
- theonething 5y ago
  This brings up an interesting question, where does innate character come from? In the case of identical twins, their (biological) nature and nurture (upbringing) are the same or very similar, yet their innate character can be very different. If you believe in the existence of a non-physical soul/spirit, that could be an explanation.