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This is a tough one and also one of my fears with my child. Take comfort in knowing that despite how powerful external forces may seem that you as her parent ha

This is a tough one and also one of my fears with my child. Take comfort in knowing that despite how powerful external forces may seem that you as her parent have an even more powerful influence. A wise man once told me "kids will never ever do what you say but will always do what you do". I would show her that obstacles are intrinsic to life. We are wired for struggle. Our struggles are what define us. Even when we have no struggles we tend to manufacture them just so we can overcome them and give meaning to our life. If she wants to give her struggle a label as x condition then that's fine, what matters is what her path should be to overcome that condition. Jordan Peterson talks about this a lot, especially in "12 Rules For Life" and in his lectures about his daughter's medical condition. I couldn't find the relevant quote but he touches on it in this lecture segment [1] [1] - https://youtu.be/VrNM-JCGGfI https://youtu.be/VrNM-JCGGfI

jcims 5y ago
Thank you, I appreciate it. Will definitely check it out.
throwaway1280 5y ago
Just letting you know that I downvoted you not because of the advice - which is pretty good - but because of the link to Jordan Peterson, who is generally a pretty nasty pseudo-intellectual piece of work.
- d0gsg0w00f 5y ago
  Thank you for your opinion. I figured a lot of people would have mixed feelings about him but I wanted to give credit to where the advice was coming from. Personally, I've gotten a lot of value from his work.
- throwanem 5y ago
  With enough of a benzo habit that he had to detox in an induced coma, besides. Can happen to anyone, of course, and it's not necessarily a reflection on character in its own right, but it is worth taking some thought on the value of advice on how to keep your life together when it comes from someone who's demonstrated such an inability to keep his own life together. Even on the simplest things - his constant line is "clean your room", and every time you see him on a Zoom interview from home it's wall-to-wall clutter in the background. Granted, "clean your room" is pretty uncontroversial, and is good advice - as is that you should pet a cat when you find the chance. But, in this as in everything else, epistemology matters: you do want to consider the source.

jcims 5y ago

Thank you, I appreciate it. Will definitely check it out.

throwaway1280 5y ago

Just letting you know that I downvoted you not because of the advice - which is pretty good - but because of the link to Jordan Peterson, who is generally a pretty nasty pseudo-intellectual piece of work.

d0gsg0w00f 5y ago
Thank you for your opinion. I figured a lot of people would have mixed feelings about him but I wanted to give credit to where the advice was coming from. Personally, I've gotten a lot of value from his work.
throwanem 5y ago
With enough of a benzo habit that he had to detox in an induced coma, besides. Can happen to anyone, of course, and it's not necessarily a reflection on character in its own right, but it is worth taking some thought on the value of advice on how to keep your life together when it comes from someone who's demonstrated such an inability to keep his own life together. Even on the simplest things - his constant line is "clean your room", and every time you see him on a Zoom interview from home it's wall-to-wall clutter in the background. Granted, "clean your room" is pretty uncontroversial, and is good advice - as is that you should pet a cat when you find the chance. But, in this as in everything else, epistemology matters: you do want to consider the source.