I think you're misinterpreting decisiveness as arrogance. GNOME developers would probably like to respond to more of them but they can't because of lack of deve

I think you're misinterpreting decisiveness as arrogance. GNOME developers would probably like to respond to more of them but they can't because of lack of developers, so they have to make tough decisions about what to support. When downstreams don't handle some of the burden then it's a loss for everybody. KDE also does not really like or benefit from having a ton of downstream forks either, the project is way too large and it's more useful to get upstream contributions. Maybe it would be better if there were more choices, but nothing is perfect. You and I could probably find more things to complain about in any third/fourth/fifth choice.