I was in a similar spot up until a few weeks ago honestly and came to a realization. It's a good time to let the stresses of life impact the job more than your

I was in a similar spot up until a few weeks ago honestly and came to a realization. It's a good time to let the stresses of life impact the job more than your family relations. Money is relatively easy to get right now, but real human connections are almost impossible. I've personally decided to put in a lot more effort at home because I have found my efforts are rewarded there, with your dead in the water job I'll bet it's the same for you. That is a matter of attitude, but for practical tips. Is the kid out of your bedroom yet? Sleeping through the night? That's the next thing on your list if not. Then spend some money on your bedding, make the bedroom a inviting place that you are excited to spend time in. I put a huge TV on the wall, everybody says you shouldn't do that but the best part of my day is laying in bed with my wife and joking about stupid YouTube videos. I put a vase on the night stand and pick up flowers when I'm grocery shopping. Put in the effort. You need some time together to be grown ups without the stresses of a child, make a space for it and time for it. Spending time with your partner is the most important thing you do all day. Can you get a babysitter? If you can, take her (making a assumption there, but I imagine this works if you are married to a dude as well) out even if you don't feel like it. Also consider how you are splitting the child care, are you doing your part? Having a resentful and stressed out partner isn't going to make you more relaxed. You need to take care of each other, and draw upon each others strength. Being a good dad is often getting the short end of the stick, let what doesn't matter slide when it comes to people who love you.