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> relatively new dad This is probably a core reason for your problem. I would bet that you find it difficult to adapt to the new normal. You now have less time
by choeger 5y ago
> relatively new dad
This is probably a core reason for your problem. I would bet that you find it difficult to adapt to the new normal. You now have less time to yourself and many more constraints to deal with. That's just super stressful. Here's my advice as a not-so-new father:
1. It's OK to be stressed. Don't stress out over your stress level (Meta Stress).
2. Things will get better.
3. Take some you-time. Do whatever helps you. Cardio is an excellent idea, like jogging through brisk winter air. But make sure to communicate and coordinate this time with your SO.
4. Get your priorities straight. Once I made the conscious decision that kids are more important than work, I could let go of work projects easily when a child became sick and needed care. Communicate this openly with coworkers and bosses.
5. Plan for vacations and other breaks auch that you have one every two months. For instance, maybe the kid(s) likes a weekend with the grandparents? Or the family goes to the zoo every once in a while? This will help to reset your stress level.
- luxurytent 5y agoYes. Being a new parent — exacerbated by this current normal — is incredibly difficult. My wife and I have spent the past year focusing much of our energy on ourselves (after the kids, work, etc) That dedicated time we have where we do what we need just for us has turned our year around; I run 5km a day, she goes to the gym to lift weights 3x a week. It took adjustment in our schedules and the time in the day is tight, but it’s oh so worth it. We have many other priorities, like renovating the garage or reorganizing the living room, but we’ve decided that’s lower on the priority — with two young kids 2021 was not just about survival, but for us as a family to thrive. Wishing OP the best!