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Not sure why you want to avoid psychotherapy. Maybe look into Gestalt therapy. Find a therapist that will help you to solve your problems, and not one that is a

Not sure why you want to avoid psychotherapy. Maybe look into Gestalt therapy. Find a therapist that will help you to solve your problems, and not one that is arrogant.

fabioborellini 5y ago
Paying 15% of net income for weekly therapy sessions only to hear lameness like "you are perfect, everyone is", "there is nothing wrong with you", "you are very brave" and to discuss the news is not what I would consider responsible use for money. Like OP, there is something wrong with my daily life and I am the only person responsible of making it better. Phrases like "everything will be all right, anyway" and "you deserve more" are not driving me towards finding and applying the necessary changes to get my life back, quite the opposite.
- arrow7000 5y ago
  Not sure whether you've ever done therapy, but I have and I've had an excellent experience with it. I don't think many therapists do therapy by spouting some superficial platitudes at the client.
  - fabioborellini 5y ago
    120 sessions. I did not develop enough agency to react to the fact we did not have a plan or a goal during the last 100.
    - arrow7000 5y ago
      I'm sorry you had a bad experience. But sounds like maybe your therapist wasn't that great.
    - gregoryl 5y ago
      What, weekly for 2.5 years?
      - fabioborellini 5y ago
        Exactly
  - magicalhippo 5y ago
    Based on my own experiences and of those close to me, I'd say going to a therapist which works can indeed be very, very helpful. The problem is finding a therapist that works for you. I had one which changed job, and the replacement just did not work. I have a good friend who's finally found one, after trying five others over the span of several years. I've got some other friends who never found one that worked for them and thus never got anything out of it. Of course, one which works for me might not work for you, it's highly individual and might even be case-specific.
- libertine 5y ago
  >Paying 15% of net income for weekly therapy sessions only to hear lameness like "you are perfect, everyone is", "there is nothing wrong with you", "you are very brave" and to discuss the news is not what I would consider responsible use for money. Uh, that's not therapy - sounds like you've been to some "cheap" expensive therapy mate... "you are perfect, everyone is" - this is a lie; "there is nothing wrong with you" - another lie; "you are very brave" - this could be a lie, most likely is;
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Not sure why you want to avoid psychotherapy. Maybe look into Gestalt therapy. Find a therapist that will help you to solve your problems, and not one that is arrogant.

fabioborellini 5y ago

Paying 15% of net income for weekly therapy sessions only to hear lameness like "you are perfect, everyone is", "there is nothing wrong with you", "you are very brave" and to discuss the news is not what I would consider responsible use for money. Like OP, there is something wrong with my daily life and I am the only person responsible of making it better. Phrases like "everything will be all right, anyway" and "you deserve more" are not driving me towards finding and applying the necessary changes to get my life back, quite the opposite.

arrow7000 5y ago
Not sure whether you've ever done therapy, but I have and I've had an excellent experience with it. I don't think many therapists do therapy by spouting some superficial platitudes at the client.
- fabioborellini 5y ago
  120 sessions. I did not develop enough agency to react to the fact we did not have a plan or a goal during the last 100.
  - arrow7000 5y ago
    I'm sorry you had a bad experience. But sounds like maybe your therapist wasn't that great.
  - gregoryl 5y ago
    What, weekly for 2.5 years?
    - fabioborellini 5y ago
      Exactly
- magicalhippo 5y ago
  Based on my own experiences and of those close to me, I'd say going to a therapist which works can indeed be very, very helpful. The problem is finding a therapist that works for you. I had one which changed job, and the replacement just did not work. I have a good friend who's finally found one, after trying five others over the span of several years. I've got some other friends who never found one that worked for them and thus never got anything out of it. Of course, one which works for me might not work for you, it's highly individual and might even be case-specific.
libertine 5y ago
>Paying 15% of net income for weekly therapy sessions only to hear lameness like "you are perfect, everyone is", "there is nothing wrong with you", "you are very brave" and to discuss the news is not what I would consider responsible use for money. Uh, that's not therapy - sounds like you've been to some "cheap" expensive therapy mate... "you are perfect, everyone is" - this is a lie; "there is nothing wrong with you" - another lie; "you are very brave" - this could be a lie, most likely is;
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