Surround yourself with people who you like. Or find something else to do beside your job that makes you happy. I think one needs some big event to make you real

Surround yourself with people who you like. Or find something else to do beside your job that makes you happy. I think one needs some big event to make you realize your priorities and to find what you truly care about. I, for example, have grown bit weary of programming. Emotionally I think it brings mostly numbness and you become over-focused on abstract things, at the expense of your true emotions. I don't want to become a robot. In my spare time I now try to avoid conversing too much abstract things and rather ask how people feel or intrigue them to analyze emotions rather than go on lectures. But certainly doesn't work for every person I interact with.