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> A few decades ago we expected women to "show emotions" and men to be strong. We are now trying to change this cliché since it hurts all of us. What we see in

> A few decades ago we expected women to "show emotions" and men to be strong. We are now trying to change this cliché since it hurts all of us. What we see in the paper is that this change is taking place. I think it's good news. This cliche only hurt women, now it will hurt all of us. Repressed emotions meant people at least tried to repress their worst, but look at boomers and their unrestrained narcissism. Who can look at that and see progress?

watwut 5y ago
> Repressed emotions meant people at least tried to repress their worst, It means that people act irritated and have angry outburst at moments unrelated to original source of issue. It means acting cold toward closed ones and children in particular. It means that blame gets placed pretty much randomly, at whoever is around and weak. It also means more of rationalizing of bad behavior and less empathy towards others. Repressed emotion dont mean better behavior.
- HPsquared 5y ago
  People shouldn't excessively bottle things up, but at the same time I believe personal boundaries are essential to a functioning society.
- nathias 5y ago
  That was the negative side of it yes, but the positive side was very strong, now we see the negatives of doubling down on emotions instead of reflecting and controling them properly and it's much worse.
orange8 5y ago
Have you considered the difference between "hide emotions" and "repress emotions"; or on the flip-side.. "show emotions" and "accept emotions". Personally, the "show emotions" should always be reasonable and proportional to to the current situation, whether you are a man or woman. Children being the exception, as they're still learning about all this stuff, and their rational minds do not fully develop until 25 years.
- errcorrectcode 5y ago
  Socially-appropriate radical honesty. There is value in not showing emotions when it would harm others. Little kids shouldn't have to deal with mommy or daddy's problems because it's traumatizing and damaging. Life is suffering. Spreading suffering by inflicting baggage on others is emotional BS. One can learn to cope and deal with things themselves in constructive ways. This is one aspect of maturity.
  - orange8 5y ago
    Thanks. That's the other word I was looking for.. appropriate. Socially appropriate. Reasonable. Proportional.

watwut 5y ago

> Repressed emotions meant people at least tried to repress their worst, It means that people act irritated and have angry outburst at moments unrelated to original source of issue. It means acting cold toward closed ones and children in particular. It means that blame gets placed pretty much randomly, at whoever is around and weak. It also means more of rationalizing of bad behavior and less empathy towards others. Repressed emotion dont mean better behavior.

HPsquared 5y ago
People shouldn't excessively bottle things up, but at the same time I believe personal boundaries are essential to a functioning society.
nathias 5y ago
That was the negative side of it yes, but the positive side was very strong, now we see the negatives of doubling down on emotions instead of reflecting and controling them properly and it's much worse.

orange8 5y ago

Have you considered the difference between "hide emotions" and "repress emotions"; or on the flip-side.. "show emotions" and "accept emotions". Personally, the "show emotions" should always be reasonable and proportional to to the current situation, whether you are a man or woman. Children being the exception, as they're still learning about all this stuff, and their rational minds do not fully develop until 25 years.

errcorrectcode 5y ago
Socially-appropriate radical honesty. There is value in not showing emotions when it would harm others. Little kids shouldn't have to deal with mommy or daddy's problems because it's traumatizing and damaging. Life is suffering. Spreading suffering by inflicting baggage on others is emotional BS. One can learn to cope and deal with things themselves in constructive ways. This is one aspect of maturity.
- orange8 5y ago
  Thanks. That's the other word I was looking for.. appropriate. Socially appropriate. Reasonable. Proportional.