I am sorry if it came off like fighting. I didn't consider it fighting, but just arguing. I am indeed interested in subjective opinions. But most of the first a

I am sorry if it came off like fighting. I didn't consider it fighting, but just arguing. I am indeed interested in subjective opinions. But most of the first answers were answering by explaining what was "the right" way for others to react, and doing it authoritatively. What I was trying to argue is both reactions are valid and felt forced to take the other side. I was doing it in the hope that anybody that read this thread would find her reaction in a similar situation legitimate and offer it to us whatever that reaction is. I didn't want them to be inhibited if they were going against the grain. And since I am interested, I replied to every answer that was interesting, like yours :) By the way muzani was the first to offer a first person account of a similar situation. Now re-reading the original post, I probably didn't make it obvious enough that I was interested in "subjective" opinions based on first person experience ! I sincerely hope this reply doesn't read like it's combative, it's really not my state of mind. Edit: I had those kind of stories in mind when asking the question https://www.folklore.org/ https://www.folklore.org/