If you're willing to run your own instance, Pleroma is the way to go. Maybe Misskey, haven't tried yet. You can specify arbitrary (including one-way) federation

If you're willing to run your own instance, Pleroma is the way to go. Maybe Misskey, haven't tried yet. You can specify arbitrary (including one-way) federation and content propagation policies. I'm also assuming that the support in server software for non-moderator users to have better control (assuming trust in the operator of course) will continue to improve over time.