I think the point was that the boundaries are often not symmetric. I have also met many more men who are perfectly happy with polyamory -- as long as they are t

I think the point was that the boundaries are often not symmetric. I have also met many more men who are perfectly happy with polyamory -- as long as they are the only man. If people want asymmetric boundaries that is of course always their business. And plenty of those men were hippies too, to be sure. But I've also seen a lot of guys go seriously crazy in the eyes at the concept of another naked man in the room even if there are ten ladies. Maybe there's an explanation for that other than homophobia, and I won't judge anyone for it as long as they're transparent and honest with their partners, but it's clearly unbalanced. We can try to blame biology or something but I don't see why it matters what the source is if it's harmful today.