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This is a silly little mindgame but it really does help with worry and stress. You basically flip all worst-case scenarios on their head to see the advantages

This is a silly little mindgame but it really does help with worry and stress. You basically flip all worst-case scenarios on their head to see the advantages of whatever situation you're in. Good Game: <seemingly terrible thing happens> Good! Now I can .... Eg. My husband is divorcing me. Good! Now I can find someone who loves me deeply and doesn't leave ice cream containers composting on his desk. My upstairs neighbors are hella loud and annoying. Good! Now I can spend more time visiting family, out and about with friends and at the gym getting ripped. My research study failed. Good! Now I can devote my extra time to writing up another protocol and considering what else I want to work on. A massive pandemic has me working from home and not leaving the house. Good! Now I can read all those books I've been wanting to get to and haven't had the chance.

alot 5y ago
I had a realization the other day that nobody on the planet asked to be here. We all just appear one day and are forced to do what we can with what we have. No instruction manual, no control over our inherited reality, physical, mental or material. It stuck with me for several days and it has led to a surprising amount of psychic relief. I am finding myself more forgiving of myself and others.
the_only_law 5y ago
I’ve tried this before, but I always fear I vastly overestimated my ability to handle the worst case.
- randycupertino 5y ago
  > I always fear I vastly overestimated my ability to handle the worst case. Good! Now you can live through rough times and prove your own fortitude and resilience to yourself and the doubters.
  - cyberge99 5y ago
    “I don’t fail, I learn.”
DarylZero 5y ago
Can't reach the grapes? Good! They were sour.
- randycupertino 5y ago
  Huh... I wasn't sure the origins of that idiom and just googled it and that's exactly what it's from! > . The idiom sour grapes is taken from an Aesop Fable called The Fox and the Grapes. In the story, a bunch of grapes hangs from a vine, just out of the fox’ s reach. The fox tries all manner of maneuvers in order to obtain the grapes, but he fails. The fox walks away muttering, “I am sure they are sour.” The moral of the fable is: “It is easy to despise what you can not get.” Clever fox. I'm sure he found some nice chicken eggs to steal instead of those grapes anyway.
james_burden 5y ago
5'10 balding male with a micropenis. Good!
- kgwxd 5y ago
  Rule 34
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- altdataseller 5y ago
  You now have a good excuse to sleep with 10/10 escorts who are way outta your league.
- quickthrower2 5y ago
  Good! I’m not short! Good! I can choose my hair colour when picking a wig. Good! Big penis is not comfortable for partner.
- Jugurtha 5y ago
  Now you'll finally put that mouth to work and actually get someone to orgasm.
srcreigh 5y ago
100000000% agree with this. Some common difficulties with this are... Sometimes you can't think of a reason why something is good. Learn how to believe not knowing the reason it's good yet is also a good thing. Be very careful when doing this with other people's problems. 99.99% of the time if someone else is struggling, it's a mistake to see the good in it. Usually it's best to acknowledge and learn about how the situation is so difficult... say "That really sucks!" and let them be the one to see it as a good thing if they want.
rytcio 5y ago
Reminds me of the Jocko video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IdTMDpizis8 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IdTMDpizis8
mclightning 5y ago
Exactly this. When I caught covid, I used that opportunity to catch-up on tv series I have been wanting to watch :D #Expanse
math_denial 5y ago
I failed everything in my life. Good! Now I can kill myself. This kind of reframing have never succeeded with me, they only make me want to jump faster because of everything that I will never be.

alot 5y ago

I had a realization the other day that nobody on the planet asked to be here. We all just appear one day and are forced to do what we can with what we have. No instruction manual, no control over our inherited reality, physical, mental or material. It stuck with me for several days and it has led to a surprising amount of psychic relief. I am finding myself more forgiving of myself and others.

the_only_law 5y ago

I’ve tried this before, but I always fear I vastly overestimated my ability to handle the worst case.

randycupertino 5y ago
> I always fear I vastly overestimated my ability to handle the worst case. Good! Now you can live through rough times and prove your own fortitude and resilience to yourself and the doubters.
- cyberge99 5y ago
  “I don’t fail, I learn.”

DarylZero 5y ago

Can't reach the grapes? Good! They were sour.

randycupertino 5y ago
Huh... I wasn't sure the origins of that idiom and just googled it and that's exactly what it's from! > . The idiom sour grapes is taken from an Aesop Fable called The Fox and the Grapes. In the story, a bunch of grapes hangs from a vine, just out of the fox’ s reach. The fox tries all manner of maneuvers in order to obtain the grapes, but he fails. The fox walks away muttering, “I am sure they are sour.” The moral of the fable is: “It is easy to despise what you can not get.” Clever fox. I'm sure he found some nice chicken eggs to steal instead of those grapes anyway.

james_burden 5y ago

5'10 balding male with a micropenis. Good!

kgwxd 5y ago
Rule 34
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altdataseller 5y ago
You now have a good excuse to sleep with 10/10 escorts who are way outta your league.
quickthrower2 5y ago
Good! I’m not short! Good! I can choose my hair colour when picking a wig. Good! Big penis is not comfortable for partner.
Jugurtha 5y ago
Now you'll finally put that mouth to work and actually get someone to orgasm.

srcreigh 5y ago

100000000% agree with this. Some common difficulties with this are... Sometimes you can't think of a reason why something is good. Learn how to believe not knowing the reason it's good yet is also a good thing. Be very careful when doing this with other people's problems. 99.99% of the time if someone else is struggling, it's a mistake to see the good in it. Usually it's best to acknowledge and learn about how the situation is so difficult... say "That really sucks!" and let them be the one to see it as a good thing if they want.

rytcio 5y ago

Reminds me of the Jocko video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IdTMDpizis8 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IdTMDpizis8

mclightning 5y ago

Exactly this. When I caught covid, I used that opportunity to catch-up on tv series I have been wanting to watch :D #Expanse

math_denial 5y ago

I failed everything in my life. Good! Now I can kill myself. This kind of reframing have never succeeded with me, they only make me want to jump faster because of everything that I will never be.