> to be open to non-monogamy and other non-traditional arrangements The "males have a hard time finding dates/sex" is just as much a thing in poly communities.

> to be open to non-monogamy and other non-traditional arrangements The "males have a hard time finding dates/sex" is just as much a thing in poly communities. In fact, I consistently have a harder time dating women when I have a steady partner than when I'm single. If anything, ENM makes the lives of men who struggle in singles dating pools even more difficult. The basic problem I've seen, over and over and over, is that many men don't know how to form normal relationships with women. Even in situations where sex is... more liberated, for lack of a better term... those men still have a really hard time getting past first dates. Unsurprisingly. There's also a strong overlap between this cohort and men who don't have female friends. I think there's probably something deeper than "women don't want sex" going on here. There's a big cohort of men who aren't desirable as sexual partners and want to blame society instead of changing themselves. Non-monogamy doesn't solve that problem. Hell, I'm not even sure that legalizing sex work could solve that problem.