3 ms·

As someone out of the dating pool for almost 40 years, that is utterly depressing (for a man).

• vidarh 5y ago
  It's less depressing if you consider that this happens because Tinder and the like are about the worst you can possibly make things for men, in that women will tend to compromise on looks very easily if you display other qualities but sites like Tinder makes it very hard to project those qualities. In other words, not succeeding on Tinder is a poor indicator of success in arenas where you get to display more personality.
  • bradlys 5y ago
    While true to some extent (you can’t really bypass ugly though) - real life is becoming more and more like Tinder. A lot of women I’ve met treat people in real life like it’s Tinder.
    • vidarh 5y ago
      People have always sorted by first impression in contexts where that's all they have to go by. That's been a thing in e.g. night clubs etc. long before Tinder. But for my part at least I've seen no indication that people treat people in real life like it's Tinder once they get to know you first. I'm not even sure what treating people in real life like it's Tinder would look like unless you're basically putting yourself forward before having had any meaningful interactions with them first.
    • PaulHoule 5y ago
      Tinder creates a "mental model" that infects both men and women away from tender.