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> Who do you think has more sex: lesbians, or gay men? It depends the couple. Also depends on what you mean by "more" and what you mean by "sex". Is a once-a-w

> Who do you think has more sex: lesbians, or gay men? It depends the couple. Also depends on what you mean by "more" and what you mean by "sex". Is a once-a-week 4+ hour naked cuddle session with occasional touching/stimulation more or less sex than a multiple 10 minute BJs every day? I would tend to say "obviously more". A longish session once a week is probably fairly common for lesbian couples and multiple short sessions -- but on the order of a few a week as opposed to a few a day -- is probably fairly common for gay men. My genuine belief, having spent almost all of my life surrounded by lgbt folks, is that if you define "sex" in a way that isn't pathological, then lesbians probably spend more time on sex than gay men. (I also STRONGLY suspect there's a heavy overlap between people who think "it's not sex unless my dick is wet the whole time" and people who have trouble finding consistent sexual partners.) > OK so now that we've settled that men have 1000x LOL where did we settle on that? I agree with OP. Women enjoy sex (gasp!).

scarmig 5y ago
If you call a massage a form of sex, who has more sex, gay men or lesbian women? Gay men. A massage isn't sex, even if that's what you call it. For what it's worth, I'm a bisexual man who's had multiple relationships with both men and women. I had more sex with the lowest-sex man than I did with the highest-sex woman, even when you do count cuddling as sex.
- throwawaygh 5y ago
  > A massage isn't sex What is sex? What is lust? (The questions are rhetorical, but the point is that these terms tend to be defined in ways the exclude lots of queer foreplay.) But, yes, a massage where both people understand the energy is building toward/from sexual stimulation is definitely part of sex. Foreplay is part of sex. I can't think of any definition of sex that excludes foreplay and that is, for the purposes of this conversation, useful. If "women don't want sex", but we define sex as functionally equivalent to "someone's genitals are touching another person", well... idk. Maybe women just don't want really shitty no foreplay sex? Surprise, surprise, right? > For what it's worth, I'm a bisexual man who's had multiple relationships with both men and women Ditto and opposite experience. It's almost like people are different enough that gender-based generalizations are almost entirely unhelpful.
  - scarmig 5y ago
    >> For what it's worth, I'm a bisexual man who's had multiple relationships with both men and women > Ditto and opposite experience. It's almost like people are different enough that gender-based generalizations are almost entirely unhelpful. Gonna call bullshit on that, considering you think the average gay man's sex life is a couple blowjobs per week.
    - throwawaygh 5y ago
      My original post says a couple blowjobs "per day", not "per week". I'm confused. If anything, I'd expect you to call bullshit because that number is too high (it was meant to be hyperbolic). But you also willfully misread my other comment, so shrugs.

scarmig 5y ago

If you call a massage a form of sex, who has more sex, gay men or lesbian women? Gay men. A massage isn't sex, even if that's what you call it. For what it's worth, I'm a bisexual man who's had multiple relationships with both men and women. I had more sex with the lowest-sex man than I did with the highest-sex woman, even when you do count cuddling as sex.

throwawaygh 5y ago
> A massage isn't sex What is sex? What is lust? (The questions are rhetorical, but the point is that these terms tend to be defined in ways the exclude lots of queer foreplay.) But, yes, a massage where both people understand the energy is building toward/from sexual stimulation is definitely part of sex. Foreplay is part of sex. I can't think of any definition of sex that excludes foreplay and that is, for the purposes of this conversation, useful. If "women don't want sex", but we define sex as functionally equivalent to "someone's genitals are touching another person", well... idk. Maybe women just don't want really shitty no foreplay sex? Surprise, surprise, right? > For what it's worth, I'm a bisexual man who's had multiple relationships with both men and women Ditto and opposite experience. It's almost like people are different enough that gender-based generalizations are almost entirely unhelpful.
- scarmig 5y ago
  >> For what it's worth, I'm a bisexual man who's had multiple relationships with both men and women > Ditto and opposite experience. It's almost like people are different enough that gender-based generalizations are almost entirely unhelpful. Gonna call bullshit on that, considering you think the average gay man's sex life is a couple blowjobs per week.
  - throwawaygh 5y ago
    My original post says a couple blowjobs "per day", not "per week". I'm confused. If anything, I'd expect you to call bullshit because that number is too high (it was meant to be hyperbolic). But you also willfully misread my other comment, so shrugs.