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My dad likes to do "Can I call you?" which I might see later, after which he won't respond which for me essentially means I will go through "worst case scenario
by Kosirich 5y ago
My dad likes to do "Can I call you?" which I might see later, after which he won't respond which for me essentially means I will go through "worst case scenarios" in my head over and over..
- cushychicken 5y agoI had to have that convo with my parents. "When I see something like 'Can I call you?', it implies to me that there's something really important you need to tell me, that's too important to send over text. I know you don't mean it that way, but it's very scary to me in the absence of more information. Can you please include a reason why you'd like to talk next time you text?" Once my folks understood that they were putting across the subtext of a death in the family, they started adding why they wanted to call!
- shaunn 5y agoI had this same conversation with my father last week. He is a low-frequency communicator, so when I get the "Call me" text I feel I have to take a deep breath and brace myself for thew news.
- cushychicken 5y agoI had to have the conversation twice; the first time I got really mad at my mom for sending me "Call me as soon as you can". She didn't really get why I was so upset - probably because I was too upset to think clearly about why I was. The next time it happened, I clued my folks in to the subtext of that message for people of my generation. They were horrified and apologized profusely. They've also never done it since.
- vollmond 5y agoYep, same thing with voicemails. "Hi X, it's your dad, call me back", and his voice was always dour/sad in just normal conversation...