I'm not aware of any private alternatives, but I've been annoyed by the same issue, and since switched to using Siri. So if you've got a few apple devices such

I'm not aware of any private alternatives, but I've been annoyed by the same issue, and since switched to using Siri. So if you've got a few apple devices such as a homepod / apple watch / iPhone, consider the homekit ecosystem, its been working well for me.