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What's the difference between: A) smugly telling them to do it so that they won't do it, and B) genuinely telling them to do it because you care about public he
by salt-thrower 5y ago
What's the difference between: A) smugly telling them to do it so that they won't do it, and B) genuinely telling them to do it because you care about public health, but they interpret it as smug?
Also, the kind of reverse psychology you're describing generally only works on children.
- spurgu 5y agoI don't know, most people like to at least have the illusion of making their own choices.
- JetAlone 5y agoThe most highly approved of DMs do tend to be good at concealing the railroad tracks...
- spurgu 5y agoI was trying to scroll through https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/DM https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/DM but couldn't find anything fitting... Am I too old or two young or too out of touch? :D
- crystalmeph 5y agoI think they mean Dungeon Master, the architect / narrator of multiplayer role playing games. A good DM will guide the players through a well-planned story, in part by making the layers feel that they are in control of the story themselves.
- d23 5y ago> Also, the kind of reverse psychology you're describing generally only works on children. I can't tell if this is tongue in cheek, but it seems to be happening on huge swaths of adults as we speak.
- DarylZero 5y agoWhy do you think that??
- npsimons 5y ago> it seems to be happening on huge swaths of adults as we speak. I am fully convinced there are vast swaths of legal "adults" who are not fully emotionally developed. On my really bad days, I'm one of them. The one thing that saves me is I tend to snap out of it eventually and think of the long term. I think that many "adults" never do. Events in recent years have only reinforced this point of view.
- avgcorrection 5y agoNew study shows that 90% of the adult population feels that most of the rest of the adult population are not fully emotionally developed (sidereel: Fundamental Attribution Error said to still be at large)
- futureshock 5y agoWhen I was 12, I equated a really big house with being very important and successful. Now that I'm a emotional adult, I see that a big house is less effective at being shelter than a modestly sized house and that it is an expression of ego, not practicality. This weekend while taking a walk I saw someone in their 70's exit their 10,000 square foot home. I am fully convinced you're right.
- baking 5y agoImagine you have a close relative (parent, sibling or child) that you love very much and don't want them to die or get very sick but they are refusing to get vaccinated. You could either keep pestering them about getting the shot, tell them they are stupid for not getting the shot, etc. Or you could sit down with them and listen carefully to their reasons and talk to them about why you decided to get the vaccinated. The first approach will most likely make them defensive and not likely to get vaccinated. The second approach may or may not work, but you would have made your best effort.
- nikitaga 5y agoI don't need to imagine. You sit them down and you learn that they inhabit a completely different reality from your own. You try to describe your reality, and they dismiss it because it disagrees with their "reality". You try to anchor them in factual reality by pointing to people you both know who died of covid, but not before infecting others... who then also died of covid, etc., but they always have a way to dismiss whatever you have to say because it disagrees with their "reality". Because apparently online propaganda is more real to them than everything they see in person and everything their loved ones tell them. I envy you if "sitting down" with them worked for you. I think most people did give their best, repeatedly, only to be blown off, repeatedly. At some point, the people you care about stop being those people and start being abusive assholes, being personally responsible for killing your friends and family with their stupidity, and dragging us all deeper into this crisis.
- dskloet 5y agoOr you avoid the topic, keep your fingers crossed that they won't get sick, and can at least have a normal conversation about the weather without hating each other.
- CharlesW 5y agoInteresting, the Ostrich algorithm as applied to RealLife(tm): https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ostrich_algorithm https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ostrich_algorithm
- vineyardmike 5y ago> What's the difference between How and who says it. A in a patronizing and rude way, B in a way they respect and understand.
- goodluckchuck 5y agoExactly, just like that!