I agree. I don't understand how people could want to be with someone who's only there because of ulterior reasons to love: public embarrassment, finances, messy

I agree. I don't understand how people could want to be with someone who's only there because of ulterior reasons to love: public embarrassment, finances, messy legal proceedings. In a relationship, you are purely there because you want to be with another person. I get that a marriage adds stability, but it's because it makes extends a relationship into situations that only exist because of other reasons.