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What about school? I'm not just talking about disrespect. Disrespect is bad in almost almost all contexts. Because, I have to be clear: Asking someone on a da

What about school? I'm not just talking about disrespect. Disrespect is bad in almost almost all contexts. Because, I have to be clear: Asking someone on a date is a sexual advance.

jandrese 5y ago
Nobody is getting fired for asking someone if they want to go out for drinks after work. The people who got fired are the ones who couldn't take "no" for an answer and got weird/creepy about it.
- FooBarBizBazz 5y ago
  I think Andrew Cuomo would disagree. Granted, he's a political target.
  - tomjakubowski 5y ago
    Cuomo's alleged behavior goes well beyond asking an employee out for drinks.
    - FooBarBizBazz 5y ago
      Last I heard, people were going after him for sending jocular texts about "mingle mamas" going to Las Vegas, and asking a staffer if she'd ever consider a relationship with an older man. He wasn't exactly Comrade Beria.
HeyLaughingBoy 5y ago
If you stand by the door asking every woman who walks by if they'd like to go out with you (no, I'm not making this up. It actually happened in college), I'd say that's a bad idea and not going to end well. If you see someone who's attractive and you managed to strike up a few conversations with them and it seems that they like you, then I'd say that asking them out is a perfectly reasonable thing to do.
- s1artibartfast 5y ago
  On the contrary, it is a pretty effective tactic that ends well for many people. The variation I am more familiar with is going around a party and telling people strangers you have a condom that is going to expire and you don't want to waste it. I know a few people who have gotten laid this way. Not all environments are safe spaces where sexual advances are inappropriate, nor should they be. People should however be polite and take no for an answer.
  - HeyLaughingBoy 5y ago
    It's not something I'd do, but I admit that it's a more amusing approach and I could see it being effective.

What about school? I'm not just talking about disrespect. Disrespect is bad in almost almost all contexts. Because, I have to be clear: Asking someone on a date is a sexual advance.

jandrese 5y ago

Nobody is getting fired for asking someone if they want to go out for drinks after work. The people who got fired are the ones who couldn't take "no" for an answer and got weird/creepy about it.

FooBarBizBazz 5y ago
I think Andrew Cuomo would disagree. Granted, he's a political target.
- tomjakubowski 5y ago
  Cuomo's alleged behavior goes well beyond asking an employee out for drinks.
  - FooBarBizBazz 5y ago
    Last I heard, people were going after him for sending jocular texts about "mingle mamas" going to Las Vegas, and asking a staffer if she'd ever consider a relationship with an older man. He wasn't exactly Comrade Beria.

HeyLaughingBoy 5y ago

If you stand by the door asking every woman who walks by if they'd like to go out with you (no, I'm not making this up. It actually happened in college), I'd say that's a bad idea and not going to end well. If you see someone who's attractive and you managed to strike up a few conversations with them and it seems that they like you, then I'd say that asking them out is a perfectly reasonable thing to do.

s1artibartfast 5y ago
On the contrary, it is a pretty effective tactic that ends well for many people. The variation I am more familiar with is going around a party and telling people strangers you have a condom that is going to expire and you don't want to waste it. I know a few people who have gotten laid this way. Not all environments are safe spaces where sexual advances are inappropriate, nor should they be. People should however be polite and take no for an answer.
- HeyLaughingBoy 5y ago
  It's not something I'd do, but I admit that it's a more amusing approach and I could see it being effective.