Forget the money, but I have gone through a divorce and remarriage (very happy and grateful! approaching 9 years), and thought at great length about the process

Forget the money, but I have gone through a divorce and remarriage (very happy and grateful! approaching 9 years), and thought at great length about the process (to put it mildly), ... ...and wrote what I learned at my site (in my profile, then click "other", "life lessons", "dating and marriage", then the "DOCUMENT" (but really everything from the dating and marriage page). (I used eHarmony conscientiously and it worked out well for me, but I also have specific opinions about them; available if you ask.) It has advice for finding and staying married. But I say forget the $ because it is more up to you than me, whether you succeed. The docs at my site reflect my beliefs, which are a big part of our relationship -- but I truly hope there are useful things in it for anyone. Happy to answer questions or discuss (my email is in the site footer). Feedback appreciated, and I wish you the best. Also: I suggest considering that sexual license and self-centeredness in general, are not associated with multigenerationally happy/loyal families. Traditional values are such because .. they have worked for a long time. In observing families that I know of that are happy across generations (dealing successfully with life's real challenges because of commitment and shared beliefs), I see that, among other things, the successful parents and family members are those who are more interested in the comfort and well-being of their spouse and kind/responsibly/loving training of children than in their own pleasure, power, or attention. We today really aren't so much smarter than what the 10 commandments can give us. Really. I have written about the various ways I have come to that conclusion -- like algebra or arithmetic -- get the same answer several different ways, and one can feel confident about it.... questions welcome.)