I think that's a common misconception I hear a lot. You are completely right about the way you are looking at it, but imho it's the other way around: noticing c

I think that's a common misconception I hear a lot. You are completely right about the way you are looking at it, but imho it's the other way around: noticing confrontation instead of avoiding it. It's not about thinking "this is fine' about everything. It's way more mental work do think about reasons why some things are the way they are, rather than just labeling at as bad or broken and therefore dismissing it. Finding the purpose of the current problematic situation is step 1, then you can go ahead and tackle it with another solution that achieves the goal differently (and hopefully in a better way for most people, but that's only my personal belief).