I live in the burbs. Here's my metrics relative to yours * Kid's school is technically walking distance, bike ride more reasonably * Walking distance from gro

I live in the burbs. Here's my metrics relative to yours * Kid's school is technically walking distance, bike ride more reasonably * Walking distance from grocery store, doctor's office, dentist * Kid can walk to friends' house * Can ride my bike to a conservation area with camping * Lakes are all around, but not really fair since I live in FL * Multiple outdoor parks within walking/biking distance * Neighborhood/community swimming pool * Walking distance to gym * Extremely low crime rate I'm not saying you should move, especially because of the close to family bit. Nor am I suggesting most of suburbia is like where I live. But if you seek out suburban areas that are designed to be in proximity to things, you will find them.