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Repeating isn't a proof of "propaganda." Repetition is used heavily in education. I am also constantly telling my kids the same thing over and over again (whi

• andrei_says_ 5y ago
  As a former parenting educator, what works, in order of influence: 1. What you actually do - modeling. In terms of relationships- How you act toward them or how they see you act toward their sibling or your partner. For example if you reward or punish them, the lesson is not the particular goal of the rewarding / punishment, but to use reward and punishments to get people to do what one wants. All rewards and punishments are a form of bullying, violent in nature, leading to loss of trust. 2. Observed actions are the top influence, followed by instruction, but very far behind. So if you ask them to do something they don’t see you do, or see you, or your partner or other adults do differently, then the repetition won’t make much of a difference. Also, kids are placed in circumstances without much autonomy which leads to a lot of frustration and resistance. The natural state of learning is play directed by one’s own interest and environment. Sitting still in school and for homework, for over 6-8h/day is a completely unnatural and obviously not spontaneous. The willpower a child needs to exert to twist themselves into these normalized but unnatural circumstances, day after day, depletes the executive function as a resource. These are just some vectors of influence to consider with kids :)