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I think tech makes relationships much harder, I think Chris Rock has a bit on how it was easier for his parents to be married for 30 years than it was for him t

I think tech makes relationships much harder, I think Chris Rock has a bit on how it was easier for his parents to be married for 30 years than it was for him to be married for 3. It's not just between you and your partner, it's now between you, them, their 300 Facebook friends. I screwed up one early relationship since I was so afraid she'd post the wrong thing on Facebook. In terms of meeting people, I only do it the old fashioned way. When you date a real person who you meet as a member of a community, your much less likely to act like a sociopath. It's also less stressful. I actually meet more people now, while spending vastly less time on dating. I will say for me social media was outright damaging. I'd waste 20 hours a week on FB, and various dating apps. Doesn't do anything for you at the end of the day, life is too short to waste it behind a tiny screen. However, Facebook messenger has been very useful when meeting people abroad. PS: If your not happy with the people your meeting , try moving. America has hundreds of cities, many of which have distinct cultures. Someone who's miserable in say San Jose, might very happy in Atlanta. Find your niche, don't fall for the lie that you can make it anywhere.

fuzzfactor 5y ago
Land lines were always expensive, especially before cellphones when that was all there was. College students often couldn't afford one of their own and it wasn't really thought of as a dire necessity. Plus there were pay phones everywhere which were cheap and unlimited for local calls. Then local college sweethearts could call each other free from home or dorm usually on shared phones, with other callers often waiting for you to finish so they could use the phone next. You could make arrangements to meet later at a certain time & place and after you hung up, that was it. Not too easy to cancel after that when almost nobody had ever been in constant contact before, and so good sweethearts really concentrated on being there for each other. I would estimate that more of the time apart was spent thinking positively about your partner when you can't be in touch, and letting nothing stand in the way of your appointed meeting (same thing everybody was doing), compared to how there is so much noise in the way with your own phone on you at all times. People don't seem to think about their sweetheart as much when they can just call anywhere anytime. And it's quite common for each person to spend more time on the phone itself doing things other than talking to their partner with it. The type of strong relationships favored by the archaic limits on mobile communication & networking might be a thing of the forgotten past.
- 999900000999 5y ago
  Things weren't too bad up until social media got on phones, say 2015 or so. A good friend of mine lost a relationship since he and his partner kept fighting about who's retweeting who. Your last paragraph reminded me of a power outage a few years back. All of a sudden I was a member of a community, I spoke to my neighbors. No longer in our personal Twitter , Insta bubbles we had to talk. Why's the power out ,does your cellphone work, etc. That said, you can still meet people in person. I haven't used any apps in about 5 years or so. And the results have been great,every single person I've gone out with recently has been college educated with a great career.

fuzzfactor 5y ago

Land lines were always expensive, especially before cellphones when that was all there was. College students often couldn't afford one of their own and it wasn't really thought of as a dire necessity. Plus there were pay phones everywhere which were cheap and unlimited for local calls. Then local college sweethearts could call each other free from home or dorm usually on shared phones, with other callers often waiting for you to finish so they could use the phone next. You could make arrangements to meet later at a certain time & place and after you hung up, that was it. Not too easy to cancel after that when almost nobody had ever been in constant contact before, and so good sweethearts really concentrated on being there for each other. I would estimate that more of the time apart was spent thinking positively about your partner when you can't be in touch, and letting nothing stand in the way of your appointed meeting (same thing everybody was doing), compared to how there is so much noise in the way with your own phone on you at all times. People don't seem to think about their sweetheart as much when they can just call anywhere anytime. And it's quite common for each person to spend more time on the phone itself doing things other than talking to their partner with it. The type of strong relationships favored by the archaic limits on mobile communication & networking might be a thing of the forgotten past.

999900000999 5y ago
Things weren't too bad up until social media got on phones, say 2015 or so. A good friend of mine lost a relationship since he and his partner kept fighting about who's retweeting who. Your last paragraph reminded me of a power outage a few years back. All of a sudden I was a member of a community, I spoke to my neighbors. No longer in our personal Twitter , Insta bubbles we had to talk. Why's the power out ,does your cellphone work, etc. That said, you can still meet people in person. I haven't used any apps in about 5 years or so. And the results have been great,every single person I've gone out with recently has been college educated with a great career.