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It's always been that way. While I have never used Tinder (Been married during its existence) but when I talk to men that have used Tinder successfully and unsu
by mullen 5y ago
It's always been that way. While I have never used Tinder (Been married during its existence) but when I talk to men that have used Tinder successfully and unsuccessfully, their stories sound just like my pre-Tinder dating life. To me, Tinder sounds like it just increased the velocity of success or failure.
- errantspark 5y agoI don't think it's always been that way, not exactly, the distribution gets less flat as people are able to make more optimized choices. https://www.nature.com/articles/s41467-021-27089-8 https://www.nature.com/articles/s41467-021-27089-8
- postsantum 5y agoOne recurring topic on HN is how miserable people here feel reading about crypto-billionaires, IPOs, cool projects , etc. The common response is that internet made it possible to marvel at 0.0001% people in their respective fields, which wasn't so easy in the past so we shouldn't feel too bad. This advice doesn't work, of course - we are not wired to internalize it properly. The very same thing happens with dating apps - you can see the most attractive people of your city and they are just a swipe away! Robin Hanson has touched this very dangerous topic a bit https://quillette.com/2019/03/12/attraction-inequality-and-the-dating-economy/ https://quillette.com/2019/03/12/attraction-inequality-and-t...