Hi Stolenmerch, I'm so sorry to hear what you are going through. As a parent, there's nothing more heartbreaking than seeing your child is not loving learning.

Hi Stolenmerch, I'm so sorry to hear what you are going through. As a parent, there's nothing more heartbreaking than seeing your child is not loving learning. I really do feel for the people trying to organize education at scale for 55 million kids across the US and maintain some level of base performance, but honestly the whole thing does not work. As you've experienced, in lieu of having values, everything has turned into a bland disguise day so no one is offended. That (btw) is kind of a metaphor for everything. I was a teacher in public, private school and a private tutor and rarely saw a school that was able to individualize learning for kids in the way that was needed. In public school, there is huge pressure on everyone to perform well on standardized tests, and in private school, there's huge pressure to get kids into Ivy League schools (so that they will get more donations). Worst of all, as you point out is the patronizing attitudes to parents. There's this attitude that you don't know what's best for your child which is total BS. If you like, I'd be happy to talk you through some options, modular learning, homeschooling, various learning apps, starting a learning pod, other alternatives. Of course, it's always a balance of childcare and education, but there are some really exciting options sprouting out there - and there is hope for you. If you want to chat, you can email me at manisha[at]modulo[dot]app. I've seen it all and I love talking to parents about alternatives, it also helps me learn as I'm working on building a decentralized school system, so it's great to hear about people's hopes, fears, constraints and see if there are ways I can be of support.