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I work at a small business whose core employees are pretty staunchly conservative (e.g., still prominently displaying Trump campaign stickers) and all go to the

I work at a small business whose core employees are pretty staunchly conservative (e.g., still prominently displaying Trump campaign stickers) and all go to the same church together every Sunday. A surprising number of business decisions get made at after-service coffee hour. It can be difficult asking for time off to be with my husband when I know most of them don’t consider me to be married, and are eagerly looking forward to the overturn of Obergefell. I would leave, but few people seem to want a rapidly-approaching forty mathematician-slash-software-dev.

geoduck14 5y ago
This is an important observation to share with us. Thank you. A previous comment mentioned the "value" of homogeneous cultures. I'm sure, from the POV of your coworkers, they have a homogeneous culture - everyone is the same (except for that one person - you). From your POV, you are the odd person out. I'm sorry you don't feel welcome.
- thebooktocome 5y ago
  I fully own that taking a job here was my decision and I knew in advance what I was getting into. There are some incidental circumstances that make the job somewhat desirable despite that.
  - necovek 5y ago
    Well, we are looking forward to "the book to come" out of it :) All the best!
Tcepsa 5y ago
Regarding your last statement, and depending on how much experience you have with the software-dev side, you may find you have more options than you expect. Lots of folks seem to be looking for software devs at the moment, and I personally would see the mathematics background as a potential bonus (even if not directly applicable it generally suggests a certain amount of rigorous consideration that is beneficial for software development as well). There appear to be quite a few remote options (see the "who's hiring" discussions) but also, if you're willing to relocate, my employer would likely be interested. E-mail me at my username @ gmail.com if you'd like more details/to discuss further. Sincerely, A just-finished-being-forty electrical-engineer-turned-software-dev PS I'm planning to write up a response to the OP next; check that out for a little more insight into what my employer is like

geoduck14 5y ago

This is an important observation to share with us. Thank you. A previous comment mentioned the "value" of homogeneous cultures. I'm sure, from the POV of your coworkers, they have a homogeneous culture - everyone is the same (except for that one person - you). From your POV, you are the odd person out. I'm sorry you don't feel welcome.

thebooktocome 5y ago
I fully own that taking a job here was my decision and I knew in advance what I was getting into. There are some incidental circumstances that make the job somewhat desirable despite that.
- necovek 5y ago
  Well, we are looking forward to "the book to come" out of it :) All the best!

Tcepsa 5y ago

Regarding your last statement, and depending on how much experience you have with the software-dev side, you may find you have more options than you expect. Lots of folks seem to be looking for software devs at the moment, and I personally would see the mathematics background as a potential bonus (even if not directly applicable it generally suggests a certain amount of rigorous consideration that is beneficial for software development as well). There appear to be quite a few remote options (see the "who's hiring" discussions) but also, if you're willing to relocate, my employer would likely be interested. E-mail me at my username @ gmail.com if you'd like more details/to discuss further. Sincerely, A just-finished-being-forty electrical-engineer-turned-software-dev PS I'm planning to write up a response to the OP next; check that out for a little more insight into what my employer is like