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You can set boundaries all you want, some people will still stomp all over said boundaries anyways - either because they do not care, or because they cannot hel
by MaulingMonkey 5y ago
You can set boundaries all you want, some people will still stomp all over said boundaries anyways - either because they do not care, or because they cannot help themselves, or think they're in the right for doing so - and those people are often well versed in doing so without running afoul of the law, HR, or your coworkers. Being merely persistently unpleasant to be around is not a crime.
Especially when setting boundaries with those who hold power over you, often the most leverage you have is a BATNA and the ability to leave for greener pastures, and the willingness to exercise said ability should they choose to call your "bluff".
I won't say leaving will necessairly be your first tool, but it'll certainly be an important one, and one that might be worth using well before things get to criminally extreme cases.
- pjc50 5y agoIndeed. Quitting is, for most places, a pretty final boundary. The ones that go after you after you quit are something else.
- encryptluks2 5y agoIf you get fired, you can apply for unemployment. A company that is going to fire you for setting boundaries or requesting time off due to toxic culture is the same type that will bad mouth you if you resign.
- watwut 5y agoThese companies and groups will attempt to destroy your reputation no matter what if you are not properly submissive. Whether they fire you or you resign. Or even when you stay with them.