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Rate of Marriages Living Apart Increasing

7 points by treyfitty 5y ago

treyfitty 5y ago
I couldn’t help but to roll my eyes while reading this. The rate of success for this type of arrangement seems to be isolated to wealthy individuals, and is so tone deaf that it’s borderline pathetic. Hell, even if you were wealthy, why would you actively choose to ignore the nuclear family just for the sake of your career? The whole thing is just pathetic.
- maxgeist 5y ago
  My wife and I lived in different countries for 2 years, partly because of work. We are not wealthy, nor did we enjoy doing this. You might say that this was a result of bad priorities and maybe it was. We were honestly trying to do what was best for both of us at the time. If we hadn't lived apart, there would have been resentment on 1 or both sides, even though it was quite hard to go through with it. Life is more complicated than your tone acknowledges, unfortunately.
- astrange 5y ago
  This is "traditional" for Japanese salarymen, who are presumably less wealthy than this 10-child blonde Quiverfull couple I assume this article is about. Their employers just send them all over the world, reorganize them, make them do completely different job titles and assume they can learn it on the job, etc, with no warning. Their wife gets their paycheck and gives them an allowance.
xchip 5y ago
A "rate" alone means nothing, thanks for the ambiguous title :/
- toomuchtodo 5y ago
  “In a 2020 study, she and colleagues found that the share of newly married couples living apart, but not because of discord, more than doubled to 13% in 2018 from 6% in 1980.” It’s about four million couples in the US. Why? My hot take: it’s more socially acceptable and reduces the volatility and stress in these relationships that would normally cause a divorce (or prevent a marriage in the first place). Here’s a great book on relationships that’ll provide more relevant depth: https://www.amazon.com/Science-Happily-Ever-After-Matters/dp/1335284796/ref=asc_df_1335284796/ https://www.amazon.com/Science-Happily-Ever-After-Matters/dp... Past statistics have shown that in the U.S. 50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second, and 73% of third marriages end in divorce btw.

7 points by treyfitty 5y ago

I couldn’t help but to roll my eyes while reading this. The rate of success for this type of arrangement seems to be isolated to wealthy individuals, and is so tone deaf that it’s borderline pathetic. Hell, even if you were wealthy, why would you actively choose to ignore the nuclear family just for the sake of your career? The whole thing is just pathetic.

maxgeist 5y ago
My wife and I lived in different countries for 2 years, partly because of work. We are not wealthy, nor did we enjoy doing this. You might say that this was a result of bad priorities and maybe it was. We were honestly trying to do what was best for both of us at the time. If we hadn't lived apart, there would have been resentment on 1 or both sides, even though it was quite hard to go through with it. Life is more complicated than your tone acknowledges, unfortunately.
astrange 5y ago
This is "traditional" for Japanese salarymen, who are presumably less wealthy than this 10-child blonde Quiverfull couple I assume this article is about. Their employers just send them all over the world, reorganize them, make them do completely different job titles and assume they can learn it on the job, etc, with no warning. Their wife gets their paycheck and gives them an allowance.

xchip 5y ago

A "rate" alone means nothing, thanks for the ambiguous title :/

toomuchtodo 5y ago
“In a 2020 study, she and colleagues found that the share of newly married couples living apart, but not because of discord, more than doubled to 13% in 2018 from 6% in 1980.” It’s about four million couples in the US. Why? My hot take: it’s more socially acceptable and reduces the volatility and stress in these relationships that would normally cause a divorce (or prevent a marriage in the first place). Here’s a great book on relationships that’ll provide more relevant depth: https://www.amazon.com/Science-Happily-Ever-After-Matters/dp/1335284796/ref=asc_df_1335284796/ https://www.amazon.com/Science-Happily-Ever-After-Matters/dp... Past statistics have shown that in the U.S. 50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second, and 73% of third marriages end in divorce btw.