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Based on personal experience, one might not know how much more pleasant a (good) elder-care living experience can be without experiencing it personally. It has

by ISL 5y ago

Based on personal experience, one might not know how much more pleasant a (good) elder-care living experience can be without experiencing it personally. It has been a godsend for our family that my parents were able to move into a retirement community that offers a progression of care. My Dad has progressive supranuclear palsy and requires relatively constant care, while my stepmother is better able to live her life with some of the chores/maintenance handled by professionals. I don't know if there are eldercare places that let potential residents try retirement living/assisted-living out for a month or so, but the community and amenity experiences can yield a flowering of life after elders have though that they were condemned to almost home-isolation by their mobility. The fact that your Dad has the fortitude to crawl up a flight of stairs every day is truly admirable -- the key is helping him find his way toward a situation where that kind of effort is optional and safer, rather than a requirement and a risk. As @crispyambulance says in a nearby thread, falls are the big risk. Good luck -- none of this is easy, but with experienced assistance, it need not be a series of unexpected calamities.

erex78 5y ago
Having been in a many Assisted Living buildings, I would echo this sentiment. Some homes are run by incredibly caring and thoughtful staff and could be the right home for a loved one. It's not for everybody, but as healthcare needs rise, it's definitely an option to be considered. PS: check us out at augusthealth.com and reach out if this is a space you want to work in.
adamredwoods 5y ago
Experienced caregivers are incredible. And expensive, but worth it. We started off by being completely unwilling to accept how my mother was losing her abilities. In hindsight, we should have gotten her a medical alert button way earlier. Eventually we started sending a helper every day to my mother's own house, then moved her to a full-assist home. Then hospice, then death. It's difficult to plan in advance for these things. The only way to get reduced-cost services (in the US) is for the parent/s to become legally destitute and then each state is different on what services they offer (if any).

by ISL 5y ago

erex78 5y ago

Having been in a many Assisted Living buildings, I would echo this sentiment. Some homes are run by incredibly caring and thoughtful staff and could be the right home for a loved one. It's not for everybody, but as healthcare needs rise, it's definitely an option to be considered. PS: check us out at augusthealth.com and reach out if this is a space you want to work in.

adamredwoods 5y ago

Experienced caregivers are incredible. And expensive, but worth it. We started off by being completely unwilling to accept how my mother was losing her abilities. In hindsight, we should have gotten her a medical alert button way earlier. Eventually we started sending a helper every day to my mother's own house, then moved her to a full-assist home. Then hospice, then death. It's difficult to plan in advance for these things. The only way to get reduced-cost services (in the US) is for the parent/s to become legally destitute and then each state is different on what services they offer (if any).