I currently struggle with a 80+ parent who does not want to move and does not believe they have cognitive deficits. If possible, get added to bank accounts so y

I currently struggle with a 80+ parent who does not want to move and does not believe they have cognitive deficits. If possible, get added to bank accounts so you can electronically pay bills and check if they are being paid if not on autopay. This is valid if your parents are local or abroad. Some of the tension I have felt is around notions of "dignity". When I read about OP's dad crawling up the stairs my reaction was negative. However, reading farther down about physical strength, autonomy, agency, made me see this differently.