We got one of those stair lifts installed. My grandfather (Also 86) got new hips some 4 years ago, but had been pretty much bedridden for 4 years prior to that.

We got one of those stair lifts installed. My grandfather (Also 86) got new hips some 4 years ago, but had been pretty much bedridden for 4 years prior to that. He'd basically live on the couch, and struggle his way throughout the 4 story house. Unfortunately, he had a pretty serious stroke during rehabilitation, which left him with dementia-like symptoms - luckily not deteriorating, just very poor short-term memory. He never regained his prior strength, so he's mostly walking inside the house now. Grandma is still alive, and they live together. They, too, absolutely refuse to even consider the alternatives. When she started experiencing dementia, we started to use meals-on-wheels services - but unfortunately, most of the food gets ignored and just spoils. They've been incredibly independent and DIY all their life - just 10 years ago, they remodeled a rental unit they own. Changed the windows, flooring, walls, etc. Right now, we're kind of lost. They sort of refuse to accept that doesn't involve us (family) directly, so the whole family is doing shifts on helping them. My aunts/uncles are regularly there cleaning, taking groceries, etc. Tbh, I think it's going to continue until one of them passes away, and the remaining one becomes too senile to function. It's hard to watch, but that's just the course of life.