You might need to wait for something to happen, and then force the issue. One things you can try: Did one of your parents' friends enter a retirement home? Wha

You might need to wait for something to happen, and then force the issue. One things you can try: Did one of your parents' friends enter a retirement home? What about one of your childhood friends parents'? Start visiting them, with your parents, occasionally. Sometimes, just visiting a retirement home for a social visit (and no agenda on your part) can plant the seed that older people are very happy in retirement homes. My grandfather lived alone after my grandmother died. He had a stroke a few months before his 100th birthday. Instead of calling 911, he called my uncle, who fortunately was only a few minutes away. That was when my dad and his siblings forced the issue and placed him into a retirement home. He was quite social, so after a few weeks, he made a lot of friends and adjusted. The vibe was kind of like freshman year at college, only for geriatrics. (Among his children and my cousins someone checked in every few days. This was how we were sure the retirement home took good care of him.) Even when we had to move him to a nursing home, he was very happy. Again, he made friends.