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Have an NPD dad and this rings a lot of bells. In addition to what's written here, it's helpful to study that disorder to better navigate the idea of frame cont
by rglover 5y ago
Have an NPD dad and this rings a lot of bells. In addition to what's written here, it's helpful to study that disorder to better navigate the idea of frame control (NPDs carefully tailor reality in this way). A good starting point is Dr. Les Carter on YouTube if you're unfamiliar with the disorder.
- pedalpete 5y agoYeah, I felt exactly the same way. The intro made me go "oh wow, there are other people with that experience too". I kept reading, but decided I needed to stop and come back to it later when I'm in a different frame of mind. This could spin me out for the day.
- scott0129 5y agoI felt similarly. Half way through the post, I couldn't help but just feel... bad. She was right, it's ultimately just her thoughts but reading it felt deeply dangerous in my gut and I strongly considered stopping half way through. But I also felt it would be worse to just walk away with just the "dangerous" half of the story, and that I should finish reading. I'm glad that I read through to the end, if only for the last few sentences - and a part of me wishes they came sooner in the post. It was a reassuring for me to read and I hope it is for you as well, something for you hold on to if you do decide to revisit the post: > Don’t let this post tell you how you should feel. Take this article lightly, take it as a pointer, take it as art. Ultimately, checking in with how you actually feel is the answer. I don’t mean to imply this is easy; it’s often really hard to know how you feel, and maybe it changes often and frame controllers put in a lot of effort to obfuscate this. But in the end, careful attention to your own sensations are your saving grace.