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I've been to over 100 cuddle parties. One thing that wasn't mentioned in these studies is the context for these hugs matter a lot. Most people avoid cuddle pa

I've been to over 100 cuddle parties. One thing that wasn't mentioned in these studies is the context for these hugs matter a lot. Most people avoid cuddle parties because they wouldn't want to cuddle a stranger and their ideas of what the "party" looks like is usually really wrong. The cuddle parties I have been to were organized in such a way to allow people to refuse more easily any request that comes their way. This optimization allows for only truly desired touch to occur. People are asked to channel any sexual desire into affection and in a setting where everyone agrees on this hugs take a whole different form than what I've seen in these studies. If the release of oxytocin is an indication of how effective and healthy touch is I can assure you that lots of people leave a cuddle party feeling like they're on MDMA without having ingested any drugs. The title here states what people prefer but after you've experience hugs like I have the over/under, criss cross is the least of your worries... what about a hug where you are cheek against cheek? What about a hug where you synchronize your breath with the other other individual and both stomachs touch throughout? These are the hugs that I have found most effective in terms of positive feelings and they are possible and desired in a non-sexual setting that optimizes for consent.

rp1 5y ago
The concept of a cuddle party is new to me. I’d love to hear more. Specifically, why do people imagine them incorrectly?
- mygoodaccount 5y ago
  Just looked it up. This is the whitest shit I ever seen lmfao
callamdelaney 5y ago
I probably wouldn't boast about the number of cuddle parties one had attended.
123pie123 5y ago
thanks for mentioning this, I've never heard of such a thing I'm both terrfied and eager at the thought of going to one interesting idea in this day and age - espically with covid I accidently touched a finger of bar worker at a pub (in the UK) whilst paying and I instantly got massive shivers all over and also last week my male colleague from India (living in the UK) linked my arm - I do know this happens a lot in Denmark, it did feel very strange walking around the pubs at night linked arms with another male - not unpleasent though
- tata71 5y ago
  > I accidently touched a finger of bar worker at a pub (in the UK) whilst paying and I instantly got massive shivers all over Sheesh. Sorry to hear this. AIDS all over again. "That's not how it works!"

rp1 5y ago

The concept of a cuddle party is new to me. I’d love to hear more. Specifically, why do people imagine them incorrectly?

mygoodaccount 5y ago
Just looked it up. This is the whitest shit I ever seen lmfao

callamdelaney 5y ago

I probably wouldn't boast about the number of cuddle parties one had attended.

123pie123 5y ago

thanks for mentioning this, I've never heard of such a thing I'm both terrfied and eager at the thought of going to one interesting idea in this day and age - espically with covid I accidently touched a finger of bar worker at a pub (in the UK) whilst paying and I instantly got massive shivers all over and also last week my male colleague from India (living in the UK) linked my arm - I do know this happens a lot in Denmark, it did feel very strange walking around the pubs at night linked arms with another male - not unpleasent though

tata71 5y ago
> I accidently touched a finger of bar worker at a pub (in the UK) whilst paying and I instantly got massive shivers all over Sheesh. Sorry to hear this. AIDS all over again. "That's not how it works!"