In hindsight the events may seem like low-stakes issues, but who knows their financial situation at the time and how they viewed the risk of missing the work is

In hindsight the events may seem like low-stakes issues, but who knows their financial situation at the time and how they viewed the risk of missing the work issue. Maybe they genuinely were addicted to work, maybe they over-estimated the importance of the item at the time, maybe they honestly thought it could impact their job and in some twisted way thought that working more was the right thing to do for you (e.g. to maintain lifestyle). I think everyone at this point is alienated from pre-pandemic ways of thinking about work, so it’s hard to put those past decisions in context given today’s circumstances. You are closer to the situation and probably right to question their way of thinking, but I’m writing this response because I could see your comment building resentment. People generally try to do the best they can (though some people just don’t). If they are still alive, can you ask them why they worked so much when you were a kid?