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random single guy finds it great to be able to have no obligations, film at 11. emphasis on single. no kids. no obligations, no responsibility. oh how zen you

random single guy finds it great to be able to have no obligations, film at 11. emphasis on single. no kids. no obligations, no responsibility. oh how zen you are.

lkozma 15y ago
Wife and kid don't necessarily have to change everything, as long as you find someone who thinks similarly to you.
- ams6110 15y ago
  Good luck
- r00fus 15y ago
  > Wife and kid don't necessarily have to change everything, as long as you find someone who thinks similarly to you. Sorry, this is quite a naive statement. My wife before pregnancy and childbirth had a different outlook on life... people's personalities change, and having kids often makes this change (large cause of divorces and break-ups). Also, your kid's personality you can't choose. Some kids are very colicky and stubborn and do much better with stable environment. Others are free spirits. If you have a special-needs or disabled child, forget about it. No choice there. My wife's friend roams around with her husband (and their kid) - he does short-term contracts around the world. She had repeated complained about the churn and stress to my wife.
  - lkozma 15y ago
    I agree with you and I have a wife and a son. I didn't say it doesn't change anything, but that it doesn't change everything. What I meant is that there will be things you cannot do anymore and there will be things for which you use the changed circumstances as an excuse not to do anymore. Extreme minimalism in particular gets harder but buying a house/car/TV/expensive furniture/100s of other things, just because that is what society excepts from a settled person is silly.
chriseidhof 15y ago
I'm not single. My girlfriend is a philosopher, and she supports me a lot. The no kids part is definitively true though.
- lkozma 15y ago
  The effect of a child on your life is partly due to things you can not change, partly due to your own and your spouse's decisions and partly due to what society/TV/advertisments/"common wisdom" tells you to do. If you limit the third factor to a sane minimum, you can go a long way.
vilhelm_s 15y ago
Zen monks _are_ celibate. Forming a family and having kids is a choice, it's not a random constraint that falls down on you from the sky.
runjake 15y ago
For what it's worth, I study all these articles and adapt them where I can to my married with 3 kids life. It's been challenging getting my wife to go along with it, but we're starting to see significant savings. I don't really blog about my experiences or mention them to friends, I just silently do it and feel a little more of life's burdens lift. It's nice to work on getting rid of attachments (in the Buddhist sense).

random single guy finds it great to be able to have no obligations, film at 11. emphasis on single. no kids. no obligations, no responsibility. oh how zen you are.

lkozma 15y ago

Wife and kid don't necessarily have to change everything, as long as you find someone who thinks similarly to you.

ams6110 15y ago
Good luck
r00fus 15y ago
> Wife and kid don't necessarily have to change everything, as long as you find someone who thinks similarly to you. Sorry, this is quite a naive statement. My wife before pregnancy and childbirth had a different outlook on life... people's personalities change, and having kids often makes this change (large cause of divorces and break-ups). Also, your kid's personality you can't choose. Some kids are very colicky and stubborn and do much better with stable environment. Others are free spirits. If you have a special-needs or disabled child, forget about it. No choice there. My wife's friend roams around with her husband (and their kid) - he does short-term contracts around the world. She had repeated complained about the churn and stress to my wife.
- lkozma 15y ago
  I agree with you and I have a wife and a son. I didn't say it doesn't change anything, but that it doesn't change everything. What I meant is that there will be things you cannot do anymore and there will be things for which you use the changed circumstances as an excuse not to do anymore. Extreme minimalism in particular gets harder but buying a house/car/TV/expensive furniture/100s of other things, just because that is what society excepts from a settled person is silly.

chriseidhof 15y ago

I'm not single. My girlfriend is a philosopher, and she supports me a lot. The no kids part is definitively true though.

lkozma 15y ago
The effect of a child on your life is partly due to things you can not change, partly due to your own and your spouse's decisions and partly due to what society/TV/advertisments/"common wisdom" tells you to do. If you limit the third factor to a sane minimum, you can go a long way.

vilhelm_s 15y ago

Zen monks _are_ celibate. Forming a family and having kids is a choice, it's not a random constraint that falls down on you from the sky.

runjake 15y ago

For what it's worth, I study all these articles and adapt them where I can to my married with 3 kids life. It's been challenging getting my wife to go along with it, but we're starting to see significant savings. I don't really blog about my experiences or mention them to friends, I just silently do it and feel a little more of life's burdens lift. It's nice to work on getting rid of attachments (in the Buddhist sense).