I think I might fall prey to this but I'm not sure. In this situation, if I were Kim, I'd try to objectively evaluate my relationship with the ticker holder, a

I think I might fall prey to this but I'm not sure. In this situation, if I were Kim, I'd try to objectively evaluate my relationship with the ticker holder, and adjust accordingly. When I have an objective measure, I think it is a cognitive distortion to view it in any way other than the facts: the ticket holder decided not to include me in the group that was going. In this case, my adjustment would be based on my expectations from my relationship: if I'm very close to the ticker holder, and they know I would have wanted to go, it informs me that the relationship isn't reciprocated, and I need to adjust my expectations. If I don't really know the ticket holder, or I know them well and know that they don't think I'd want to go, then my expectations from the relationship are met, and no adjustment is required. So, is this a cognitive distortion? Am I assuming the worst possible interpretation of events? I think so. I'm 46, and the reason I do this is because my life has taught me that more harm results from assuming best intent when the evidence is clearly contradictory.