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I (man, 26) always wanted to do a manual job, but my parents pushed me into the IT. Now 2 years after graduation I am sitting on my ass and dealing with databas

by jebko 5y ago

I (man, 26) always wanted to do a manual job, but my parents pushed me into the IT. Now 2 years after graduation I am sitting on my ass and dealing with databases. I hate it so much, but guess what. I make 60k per year. I see the point of my parents. My schoolmates earn less than 20k and struggle a lot. The good paid job gives me an access to the "higher class". Besides that, compared to my schoolmates from the good old days I see options that only IT can give you. Already starting a new project, so guess what. I will probably do the same to my kids.

ladylucy 5y ago
Are you saying that those with manual skills can not start their own projects?
trabant00 5y ago
Interesting perspective. Well, if you like the choice now than it was a good choice after all for your case. My perspective: my parents wanted to force me to quit IT, at the time it payed peanuts in my country compared to civil engineering - what they wanted. I struggled with money for about 10 years, but now I'm making more than my former civil engineering university friends, have a lot less responsibility and I hate my job a lot less. How I explain it to myself is that my passion made me excel at my job while they do see it as "just a job".
- jebko 5y ago
  It is just a job... this is a crucial point. My aunt used to be a passionate dancer and the passion turned into her job. The story looks like a dream come true from the outside and the reason I spoke to her is the reason why I am ok with where I am right now. She has been living this "dream" for about 10 years by now and recently she confessed that she lost the passion only 2 years after she turned i into a job. This is a natural cycle I believe. People change, hobbies and passions change. Now I am passionate about football and my new project (the one I am secretly doing while being paid at work) is about football. I am passionate about it, but already know this is just a period of my life.
  - winnerdev 5y ago
    And what is your project about?
    - jebko 5y ago
      Being obsessed with football and knowing how to deal with big data, it is a challenge to put those 2 worlds together. Predicting the football results means working with big data and the results is https://rowdie.co.uk https://rowdie.co.uk
      - winnerdev 5y ago
        Manual work seems more promising than this. But i guess i do not know everything
- drakonka 5y ago
  Most people see their job as "just a job" and for many people that's absolutely fine. They have a stable income and can do things they're passionate about in their free time. Those women you think were pushed and hate it? They sound like adults who can make their own decisions and change industries if they decide they'd rather do something they're more passionate about. I would rather have parents who support their children in whatever they want to do, but in the end tech is hardly a bad career choice to be encouraged to explore.

by jebko 5y ago

ladylucy 5y ago

Are you saying that those with manual skills can not start their own projects?

trabant00 5y ago

Interesting perspective. Well, if you like the choice now than it was a good choice after all for your case. My perspective: my parents wanted to force me to quit IT, at the time it payed peanuts in my country compared to civil engineering - what they wanted. I struggled with money for about 10 years, but now I'm making more than my former civil engineering university friends, have a lot less responsibility and I hate my job a lot less. How I explain it to myself is that my passion made me excel at my job while they do see it as "just a job".

jebko 5y ago
It is just a job... this is a crucial point. My aunt used to be a passionate dancer and the passion turned into her job. The story looks like a dream come true from the outside and the reason I spoke to her is the reason why I am ok with where I am right now. She has been living this "dream" for about 10 years by now and recently she confessed that she lost the passion only 2 years after she turned i into a job. This is a natural cycle I believe. People change, hobbies and passions change. Now I am passionate about football and my new project (the one I am secretly doing while being paid at work) is about football. I am passionate about it, but already know this is just a period of my life.
- winnerdev 5y ago
  And what is your project about?
  - jebko 5y ago
    Being obsessed with football and knowing how to deal with big data, it is a challenge to put those 2 worlds together. Predicting the football results means working with big data and the results is https://rowdie.co.uk https://rowdie.co.uk
    - winnerdev 5y ago
      Manual work seems more promising than this. But i guess i do not know everything
drakonka 5y ago
Most people see their job as "just a job" and for many people that's absolutely fine. They have a stable income and can do things they're passionate about in their free time. Those women you think were pushed and hate it? They sound like adults who can make their own decisions and change industries if they decide they'd rather do something they're more passionate about. I would rather have parents who support their children in whatever they want to do, but in the end tech is hardly a bad career choice to be encouraged to explore.