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Saying "someone is just born with it" is called a fixed mindset approach[1]. It sets you up for failure. I used to be hideous with talking to people, but I wor

Saying "someone is just born with it" is called a fixed mindset approach[1]. It sets you up for failure. I used to be hideous with talking to people, but I worked at it and, most importantly, _believed that I could improve_. 1: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mindset#Fixed_and_growth_mindset https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mindset#Fixed_and_growth_minds...

teekert 5y ago
I agree with the importance of avoiding a fixed mindset, but, recognizing that some people are born with a skill and you are not does not mean that you can't become adapt at said skill (I went through something similar with math, although I still feel like I lost my fear of math rather than becoming really good at it)... Or find your own "way of the ninja" (sorry too much Naruto, thinking of Rock Lee ;) [0]) [0] https://naruto.fandom.com/wiki/Rock_Lee https://naruto.fandom.com/wiki/Rock_Lee
- netizen-936824 5y ago
  To take this a step further, we cannot control the regulation of our neurotransmitters to the degree of giving a person with autism social skills. That's just not how things work, so in a way it IS a bit fixed. We are fixed to the range of what we are born with, unless we use some sort of pharmacological intervention. When it comes to autism and social skills, some interesting treatments may come from mu-opioid receptor agonists and antagonists
  - netizen-936824 5y ago
    Just to add a note: Mu-opioid receptor activity is one piece of the regulation for how rewarding tasks are, this includes the reward for socialization
  - teekert 5y ago
    Perhaps there are limits indeed, but when will you reach those hard limits? Or is it just hard to push those limits? I'd say the latter.
    - netizen-936824 5y ago
      To answer this you need to look to genetics and epigenetics. Those are the hard limits, and I would advise against making assumptions before you do consult experts on gene and receptor protein regulation. Those are the mechanisms that underlie the adaptive features of an organism (humans are organisms)
      - teekert 5y ago
        We have no way of knowing someone’s full potential and how close one is to making full use of it. But I think we can agree that it will be the people that try hard that will win more, relative to peers with the same potential that don’t.
toast0 5y ago
Acknowledging that some people picked up a skill with little effort and others will need to put in a lot of effort is important. Often, the people who picked up a skill as if born with it are good at the skill, but unprepared to teach it. You may need to seek out people who learned it intentionally and became experts with awareness.

teekert 5y ago

I agree with the importance of avoiding a fixed mindset, but, recognizing that some people are born with a skill and you are not does not mean that you can't become adapt at said skill (I went through something similar with math, although I still feel like I lost my fear of math rather than becoming really good at it)... Or find your own "way of the ninja" (sorry too much Naruto, thinking of Rock Lee ;) [0]) [0] https://naruto.fandom.com/wiki/Rock_Lee https://naruto.fandom.com/wiki/Rock_Lee

netizen-936824 5y ago
To take this a step further, we cannot control the regulation of our neurotransmitters to the degree of giving a person with autism social skills. That's just not how things work, so in a way it IS a bit fixed. We are fixed to the range of what we are born with, unless we use some sort of pharmacological intervention. When it comes to autism and social skills, some interesting treatments may come from mu-opioid receptor agonists and antagonists
- netizen-936824 5y ago
  Just to add a note: Mu-opioid receptor activity is one piece of the regulation for how rewarding tasks are, this includes the reward for socialization
- teekert 5y ago
  Perhaps there are limits indeed, but when will you reach those hard limits? Or is it just hard to push those limits? I'd say the latter.
  - netizen-936824 5y ago
    To answer this you need to look to genetics and epigenetics. Those are the hard limits, and I would advise against making assumptions before you do consult experts on gene and receptor protein regulation. Those are the mechanisms that underlie the adaptive features of an organism (humans are organisms)
    - teekert 5y ago
      We have no way of knowing someone’s full potential and how close one is to making full use of it. But I think we can agree that it will be the people that try hard that will win more, relative to peers with the same potential that don’t.

toast0 5y ago

Acknowledging that some people picked up a skill with little effort and others will need to put in a lot of effort is important. Often, the people who picked up a skill as if born with it are good at the skill, but unprepared to teach it. You may need to seek out people who learned it intentionally and became experts with awareness.