I think the key, from someone like me a bit latin, living in Asia where everyone is a bit muted and shy, is to think of others a bit more. What do they want, wh

I think the key, from someone like me a bit latin, living in Asia where everyone is a bit muted and shy, is to think of others a bit more. What do they want, what can lighten their burden, what can make them feel a bit better even if it's not in the greater interest, rational or even moral ? Sometimes it's telling a joke, sometimes it's making a sacrifice, sometimes it's a white lie, often it's just a smile to show them they're not alone. When you understand that to get others to work for you, the fastest is to work for them, things get much easier. The worst people in this are usually too intelligent (difficulties to understand weakness), too correct (difficulties to embrace mistakes and roll with them), too strict (difficulties to think outside paved roads), too afraid (difficulties to take a stand when they should) or too moral (difficulties to ignore little infrigments). Be less of those and maybe you'll improve ? You also can make the best friends by making the right ennemies, I've noticed (usually by going against people like I quoted - maybe people like you, you can get others to be attracted to yourself)