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Personal hygiene, make sure to look at people's face and eyes when interacting. Show genuine interest in other people, make the effort, remember their name, pay
by dsego 5y ago
Personal hygiene, make sure to look at people's face and eyes when interacting. Show genuine interest in other people, make the effort, remember their name, pay attention to what they share. Don't assume what other people think or know, or put them in buckets based on previous interactions with other people (or based on their appearance). Be aware of subtle social cues and emotional states, including ones you're giving out. Being aware of common behavior patterns, including maladjusted personality traits also helps (https://outofthefog.website/traits https://outofthefog.website/traits).
- coldpie 5y agoGood reply. > Show genuine interest in other people, make the effort, remember their name, pay attention to what they share. When I do all of the things you mention, they are very intentional. For example, during conversations I actively think to myself, "I need to remember this so I can bring it up next time I talk to them because that is a nice thing to do and will make you friends, which are nice to have." It gets easier over time, as I "train" myself in good social behaviors like that, and I think I'm decent at it now. But it definitely felt like a skill I was actively putting effort into developing around my early 20s and it still feels like a very intentional and high-effort activity to this day. One thing I often wonder is if other people so intentionally think about their social interactions this way, or if it's just something that "most" people do by nature, and my behavior reflects some deviation from average in myself.