> so these people are most likely the ones who have spend their prime years mostly indoor in front of a screen working away on code and algos, chasing that top

> so these people are most likely the ones who have spend their prime years mostly indoor in front of a screen working away on code and algos, chasing that top dream job, instead of "out-there" working with people. God damn, this is the cherry on top for an entire post that was a pile of borderline condescending platitudes. This hand wavy advice of just going “out there” and interacting with people is unhelpful. Out where? Be specific. Changing where you are isn’t going to fix your problem. You’ll just end up going out to do things you don’t really care about or like just so you can get some interaction with people you may not have much in common with. And when you get tired you’ll just go back home and do the solitary anti-social things you actually enjoy and be your real self again. Pretending to be an extrovert will do you no favors in discovering how you actually want to socialize. To really learn social skills, you first have to start with what do you hope to gain from having them? Then you can work backwards and figure out how to get there. Many times it doesn’t even have to involve going “out there”. Some of the most intense socializing I’ve done was during the COVID lockdowns of 2020.