you define it thus and therefore it is written in stone? just because the traditional monogamous relationship is the most popular because it is what works well

you define it thus and therefore it is written in stone? just because the traditional monogamous relationship is the most popular because it is what works well for most people doesn't mean it gets status as the only true relationship. I see the typical relationship falling into the same trap that so many other social values have. generation 1 does it because it works. generation 2 assumes it to be true generation 3 actively persecutes those who do not conform. the reason is the same, it's a mental shortcut. why go through the painful process of coming up with your own rules for a relationship when there are already time-honored, socially-acceptable normal rules out there for you to follow? because we are not other people.