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"good" relationships that could be better served by inviting other parties in? That isn't a relationship, it's enjoyable shared time with a person interchangeab
by Chocobean 18y ago
"good" relationships that could be better served by inviting other parties in? That isn't a relationship, it's enjoyable shared time with a person interchangeable with any other equally qualified outside party. That kind of relationship is simply getting along, having fun, not being alone, having someone work/stay home. It's like a social club that says "no ugly chicks allowed."
I would define a relationship as "intimacy shared only with a chosen partner", that is, "fidelity", or respect/love/affection/preference towards one single person over and above any other. Its very definition is exclusivity: "no one else except this one person allowed, even if you were prettier, thinner, richer, healthier...."
- nazgulnarsil 18y agoyou define it thus and therefore it is written in stone? just because the traditional monogamous relationship is the most popular because it is what works well for most people doesn't mean it gets status as the only true relationship. I see the typical relationship falling into the same trap that so many other social values have. generation 1 does it because it works. generation 2 assumes it to be true generation 3 actively persecutes those who do not conform. the reason is the same, it's a mental shortcut. why go through the painful process of coming up with your own rules for a relationship when there are already time-honored, socially-acceptable normal rules out there for you to follow? because we are not other people.