1) You can't do much if the other person doesn't want to be helped, it is not your job to save people, this instance seems to go beyond friendship and the rules

1) You can't do much if the other person doesn't want to be helped, it is not your job to save people, this instance seems to go beyond friendship and the rules i've stated might not apply. 2)Drinking is just one venue, these days i go to the movies with friends (went to see dune recently), have communal meals (korean bbq is a particular favorite), try to ride a bike with a friend once in a while 3)There unfortunately is no fast way to build a circle of friends, cultivating relationships takes time, anyone who tries to rush this process will see their endeavors fail. If you have 0 friends, the best thing to do is try to make at least one friend by talking with people, initiating events, and following through. The rule here is that one lifelong friend is better than dozens of flakey friends. 4)I have friends much older than me and much younger than me, realize that people are people, they all have individual personalities, personalized interests, a relationship is a give and take, take an interest in learning other people's hobbies and interests, give them your attention but ditch them if they don't give you any attention (value yourself as a person first before attempting to make friends). 5)"Sausage party" events are where i had some of my best fun, i mean, unless your goal is to get laid or find a girlfriend, not sure why hanging out with a bunch of guys is considered a negative? The older i get, the more i cherish events where i can hangout with like minded individuals and play video games or talk about tech (which means it is mostly a "sausage party")