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oh boy. I am already over 10, and most of my partners have been outside a traditional relationship. The main reason is that I am very picky who I choose for a
by ardit33 18y ago
oh boy. I am already over 10, and most of my partners have been outside a traditional relationship.
The main reason is that I am very picky who I choose for a long term relationship, but less picky for a casual one.
Now, why have casual relationships at all? Can I blame testosterone on this? When you are in your early 20s, there is a huge surge of testosterone in males, and a huge desire to just romp for once and a while. So, I did it, with less desirable females, and it felt good.
If I just waited for the "ideal" partner, then it would just take forever, or I would have done the mistake to just date/marry somebody just b/c sex comes with it.
And I have seen it in the south, time and time again, where people wait to have sex until they get married. And marriage becomes a destination point, to have sex. Unfortunately those marriages don't last long, and the south has the highest divorce rates in the nation.
While places like MA, where people marry later, and have more partners in their life, have much lower divorce rate.
- time_management 18y agoCasual sex vs. waiting until marriage = false dichotomy. I also don't think people who marry early are doing so only to have sex, because a lot of the people who marry early tend also to be sexually active early. Circa 2008, I think very few people wait until marriage to have sex; even if they only have one partner, most people want to know that they're sexually compatible before making a lifelong commitment, for obviously good reasons.
- Chocobean 18y agoWhether religious or darwinist, which is a better mate for desirable child-bearing members of the species? 1) A man who is master of his own body and emotions, who out of respect for himself and fellow human beings, would choose masturbation and self-discipline until he acquires preferable female(s). 2) A boy puppet to the whimsy of his sexual appetite, who out of pursuit of pleasure will use and toss fellow human beings simply because they are "less desirable".
- jmatt 18y agoIf I just waited for the "ideal" partner, then it would just take forever As an aside you can compute your best choice for a partner (or many other similar choices.. apartments, puppies, etc). Chapter 13 in this book: Chance: A Guide to Gambling, Love, the Stock Market, and Just About Everything Else by Amir D. Aczel