Right I was about to suggest exactly the same thing. You could even agree with a friend (invite a friend) to have a thread checked, say, once every two months.

Right I was about to suggest exactly the same thing. You could even agree with a friend (invite a friend) to have a thread checked, say, once every two months. So there'd be a bit of guilt if you didn't leave anything, but that potential for guilt is the cost the two of you would pay for keeping in touch.