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Thanks for your thoughts! A note on the one about entitlement: Everyone is _entitled_ to have their experience of reality acknowledged (this opens up a can of
by jrsdav 5y ago
Thanks for your thoughts!
A note on the one about entitlement:
Everyone is _entitled_ to have their experience of reality acknowledged (this opens up a can of worms, but bear with me).
Someone who is neurodivergent (like OP) experiences reality differently than someone who is neurotypical. It's subjective, and hand-wavy, I know. But to some greater extent, we have to respect _and accept_ what people tell us about themselves.
I liken it to being a parent, when you see your child worrying about something, or saying something you disagree with. Instead of trying to force your viewpoint on them by telling them how they _should_ feel (have you ever caught yourself doing that? I know I have), why not ask them _why_ they feel like that? You gain understanding, and through understanding discovery, which leads to acceptance and a deepening of empathy for individual experience.
I've personally discovered that what comes across as well intentioned "advice" can often feel a lot like shame. And shame, is the death of joy. It only leads one direction -- downwards. So my "advice" is generally to listen more, to _accept_ more.
Anyways, that's what I was getting at. Hopefully this helps add clarity.